From the beginning of time, we were created for intimacy; intimacy with our Creator and intimacy with one another. The need for friendship started back in the Garden of Eden. Young Adam craving a partner comparable to him. He approached the bird, the lion and the fish; all were wonderfully made but none of them could relate to the deep thoughts and ideas Adam had. He yearned for relation..for commonality. He yearned to understand and to be understood. The Bible
never mentions that Adam asked God for a wife. Yet, in God’s goodness and grace, He knew exactly what Adam needed long before Adam did.
A partner. A friend.
Friendship. It’s the epitome of interconnectedness. At the root of friendship is the comfort of relation; knowing we are not alone. .My all time favorite words to hear from another woman are “No way, Me too.” Those words have wrapped around my lonely heart and choked the fear right out. It’s those words that marked the beginning of some solid friendships.
These are [MY] yellow lilies.
To the average person they would be just that..yellow lilies.
To me, they are a refreshing representation of a valued friendship.
A phileo friendship.
Luke 14:10 says “But when you are invited, go and sit in the lowest place, so that when your host comes he may say to you, ‘Friend, move up higher.’ Then you will be honored in the presence of all who sit at table with you.”
The idea of love represented here is best described by the greek word Phileo.
[Phileo: describes a deep emotional connection that goes beyond an acquaintance. When we experience Phileo, we are experiencing a deeper level of connection. This love is not as deep of a connection that you would have with family nor is it as passionate as a love you would have with a spouse. This love is a strong bond that creates community.]
When someone has Phileo love for another person, she regards that person in a high personal position..above herself. Phileo love is characterized by shared experience.
The joy of one, becomes the joy of all.
Phileo bonds don’t come around often. They are rare to find like precious jewels. But when they do come around, there is no denying their existence. They are exhilarating, secure and overflowing with loyalty. Phileo connections will follow you into dark valleys and sun shining mountain tops. They will be there for you through good times, bad times and those times you are unaware of what to categorize them as. They are just there for the times…period.
Phileo friendships brighten up your heart the way these lilies brighten up my living space. They add smiles to your face and wipe tears from your weary soul. Phileo friendships are God’s reminder that we are not alone. So many times we walk this earth feeling isolated. We struggle with our fleshly desires and are in bondage thinking that we are the only ones experiencing the pain of the fall.
Phileo friendships are our reminders.
Reminders of connection and the beauty of vulnerability.
I have had the pleasure of experiencing Phileo friends throughout my journey in this life. Some of these friends were for seasons and others have stayed for what seems like a lifetime. There has also been seasons that I have lacked a Phileo friend.
It’s in those seasons that I have learned the most.
I learned that in times of Phileo drought, you become a Phileo friend.
These are [MY] yellow lilies, from [MY] Phileo friend. She has seen me through many seasons of my life. Her friendship has proved very true. You see, these yellow lilies did more than dress up my favorite reading corner; they dressed up my heart. It’s these small acts of kindness that prove her loyalty. I’ve been sitting in this spot every morning. I either play with my little arrow or spend time with Jesus. Either way, I am doing both with a smile because I am reminded that I am loved.
[This is one of my favorite mugs ↓ , from another Phileo friend]
So grab your cup of [whatever] &
start thinking of how you can show appreciation to your Phileo friends
or maybe how you can be a Phileo friend.
All of God’s rich blessings,